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Today’s Vibe: Slowness, Boundaries, and the Bliss of Not Performing

Today’s Vibe

After a few soul-filled weeks of having a couple of my favorite people on the planet come visit, today calls for slowness.

🔻 Reflection.

🔻 Gratitude.

🔻 Releasing.

Grounding in my own energy.
Tending to the trees, the gardens, the land.
Planting myself back home before the next adventure starts.


From Burnout to Boundaries

My life is a stark contrast to what it was.
Hustle. Grind. Overthink. Overwork. Over-give.
Over-responsibility for everything and everyone.

Zero boundaries. 100% burnt out.

My priorities today are simple:
🜁 My nervous system
🜂 My energy
🜃 My peace
🜄 My boundaries


I Used to Be Afraid of Being Myself

Being my whole self was terrifying.
I learned young all the ways I didn’t fit in.
Too much. Too weird. Too sensitive. Too different.
But also… not enough.

I learned how to contort myself to fit.
Or at least, how to try.

I was ashamed of having so many changing and diverse — often taboo — interests.
Of being endlessly curious.

“Pick one direction!”

Insecure about being the type of person who is both logical and intuitive.
Analytical and creative.

“Pick a lane!” 

I was embarrassed to be so sensitive — emotionally, physically, energetically, spiritually.

“Stop being so sensitive!”

I was worried I’d be rejected for being myself because I was told I was too much and not enough by those around me. 

“Do you think this is appropriate behavior?”

I stayed 6 steps ahead.

Masked like my life depended on it.
Became whoever the person in front of me needed me to be.


I’m Not Meant to Be Contained

I’m done contorting myself into a box that someone else made.
I embrace the dynamic kaleidoscope that is me—that isn’t meant to be contained.

It’s my facets that make my life full and interesting.
My capacity to feel and witness the deepest highs and lows is what makes my inner world so rich.

Yes, incredibly painful at times.
And also incredibly blissful, sensual, and expansive other times.


Who I Choose Matters

Surrounding myself with the people who accept—nay, celebrate—my sensitive, deep, random, wild self allows me to bloom a little more each day.

I’ve become militant about who I spend my time with.

My filter is simple:
Do these people nourish or drain me?

It doesn’t mean we don’t have conflict or hard conversations.
Sometimes, we do.

But we also have the tools and the desire for healthy repair, balanced relationships, and are committed to our own personal growth.


I’m Still Learning (and Unlearning)

I’m still learning.
Still growing.
Still understanding that other people’s shit is their shit.
Their projections are their mirror.
Their work is for them to do.

I don’t have to take blame or ownership over what’s theirs.

But I can use it for self-reflection and inquiry.
Use it as a mirror to go deeper into myself.


Un-becoming Is a Cycle (Not a Finish Line)

I will always be un-learning and learning.
Growing.
Evolving.

Experimenting through the endless cycles of death and rebirth that I believe is the natural human experience.

There is something tantalizing in that for me. 
Exciting. 
Sacred.

Maybe even holy. 


Today

I’m a rabbit-hole-diving, strategic, efficiency-loving, whimsical mystic.
And self-proclaimed nerd.

I’m proud of being the wrecked, wild, and full of wonder unfinished human that I am.

That kind of self-acknowledgment and self-acceptance has been hard-won.

I understood it in theory.
Even taught the practice of it.

But embodying the practice of it…that’s the fucking hard part.

And that’s what set me free.


This piece is part of a creative project called The Unfinished Human™—a living archive of being and un-becoming in a world that rarely lets us. This is soul-truth in motion. If something in here landed, hit, or helped you exhale… you can tag it, share it, or just let it echo in your bones. That’s enough.

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